So last weekend we had our first experience of a girl's 4th birthday party and not just any girl but my beautiful niece Cherry. Now I thought that two year olds were fiesty but oh no, 4 year olds are full of beans and hilarious! There were 6 other children there plus Zach and baby Lola (my other beautiful niece). We went to the common with the threat of rain and played proper old school games - tag, ball in the goal, the egg and spoon relay and a spontaneous 'lift a massive log' game.
Now while the others listened intently to their instructions, took the games seriously and ran their legs off, Zach was a little confused. He quickly caught onto the fact that sweets were being given out but didn't particularly join in the games until it came to the egg and spoon. Zach does love a bit of a challenge, especially a physical one that requires concentration and the egg and spoon was right up his street. Eek!
As I balanced the egg on his spoon and left him to join the other mums and dads waiting to do the relay, I did have a lump in my throat. There he was, my son anaphylactic to egg, with a boiled egg, waiting with the other children. It was almost too much for me to watch him, but I pushed away the tears and pulled through (!) to cheer him on, only slightly deterred as he came in 5 minutes after the others and we had a small interlude while I persuaded him to hand the spoon over to me, narrowly avoiding a meltdown. I felt proud of him!
Lunch followed back at my sisters house, where we had delicious healthy food followed by allergy free cupcakes (huge thanks to Cup-Cakelicious for the amazing cake toppers). The party game of 'Pass the Parcel" was made easy by presents of allergy free chocolates and sweets. I was able to relax (almost) and watch my little boy sitting next to the birthday girl, singing happy birthday, taking it in turns to get a chocolate, having his face painted (thanks Cherry!) and working out all the other children and what they were doing. He and I had space and I delighted in watching him being his own person. It confirmed to me that what I want more that anything is to provide Zach with the security and self confidence to become whoever he wants to be.

When my sister Emma was told how grateful I was to her and her husband Simon for all their thought about Cherry's party, she was surprised and again it reminded me that life with food allergies, as a very good friend of mine (Heidi) coined is full of 'unnecessary necessaries'. Isn't that a good phrase?
The unnecessary necessaries of Sellotape to make a boiled egg safe, allergy free pass the parcel, pretty allergen free cakes and edible allergy friendly prizes allowed a little boy to be full of joy and a mum to burst with pride.
So thank you from Zach, my husband and I to Simon, Emma, Cherry and Lola. Oh and watch this space, Zach has been practising ever since with a spoon and ball. The challenge is on!
Until next time.
Lots of love
Charlotte x
Now while the others listened intently to their instructions, took the games seriously and ran their legs off, Zach was a little confused. He quickly caught onto the fact that sweets were being given out but didn't particularly join in the games until it came to the egg and spoon. Zach does love a bit of a challenge, especially a physical one that requires concentration and the egg and spoon was right up his street. Eek!
| Zach as Thomas the Tank Engine, painted by Cherry |
Lunch followed back at my sisters house, where we had delicious healthy food followed by allergy free cupcakes (huge thanks to Cup-Cakelicious for the amazing cake toppers). The party game of 'Pass the Parcel" was made easy by presents of allergy free chocolates and sweets. I was able to relax (almost) and watch my little boy sitting next to the birthday girl, singing happy birthday, taking it in turns to get a chocolate, having his face painted (thanks Cherry!) and working out all the other children and what they were doing. He and I had space and I delighted in watching him being his own person. It confirmed to me that what I want more that anything is to provide Zach with the security and self confidence to become whoever he wants to be.
When my sister Emma was told how grateful I was to her and her husband Simon for all their thought about Cherry's party, she was surprised and again it reminded me that life with food allergies, as a very good friend of mine (Heidi) coined is full of 'unnecessary necessaries'. Isn't that a good phrase?
The unnecessary necessaries of Sellotape to make a boiled egg safe, allergy free pass the parcel, pretty allergen free cakes and edible allergy friendly prizes allowed a little boy to be full of joy and a mum to burst with pride.
So thank you from Zach, my husband and I to Simon, Emma, Cherry and Lola. Oh and watch this space, Zach has been practising ever since with a spoon and ball. The challenge is on!
Until next time.
Lots of love
Charlotte x

